You want the elusive “Balanced Life” and cannot seem to get there.
Maybe you need to say “no” more often. I learned this the hard way when I had so much stress that I believe it contributed to a cancer diagnosis. That was 43 years ago – I am happy to be alive and that I learned to start saying “no” more often.
Here is an interesting list from Matt Rutherford on ten ways to politely say “no.”
- “Thank you for thinking of me, but I’m unable to take this on right now.”
This response is polite and acknowledges the request while firmly stating your availability. - “I appreciate the offer, but I’m focusing on other priorities at the moment.”
Here, you’re letting the other person know that you have other commitments that take precedence. - “I’d love to help, but my schedule is already full.”
This acknowledges the request while making it clear that your plate is full. - “Unfortunately, I have to decline, but I hope it goes well.”
This response is direct, but offers a positive sentiment, showing that you wish them success. - “I’m afraid I can’t commit to this at the moment.”
A straightforward yet polite way to decline without needing to go into too much detail. - “This isn’t something I can take on right now, but thank you for thinking of me.”
A gentle way of turning down the request while expressing gratitude for being considered. - “I’m honored you asked, but I need to pass this time.”
This response shows that you value the offer but still places your boundary clearly. - “I’d rather not, but thank you for asking!”
Sometimes a brief, honest response is the best way to say no, without over-explaining. - “I’m flattered by the offer, but I don’t have the capacity to help at this time.”
You show appreciation for being considered, but also make it clear you can’t take on any more. - “I have to decline, but please let me know if there’s another way I can support you.”
This is a great way to maintain the relationship by offering help in a different capacity, while still setting your limits.
Saying “no” is good role modeling for others. So many people do not realize that “no” is actually an option. Share this with your team and friends. Say “no” and excel at the things you say “yes” to!
*Ideas for this blog taken with permission from Matt Rutherford’s post: “The Art of Setting Boundaries: Why Saying ‘No” is Key to Your Success,” October 13, 2024.
